![]() Some suggestions from a longtime reader for Close To Doing This, the straight guy who-after eight sexless years-was thinking about cheating on his wife…ĬTDT’s letter doesn’t mention whether he knows why his wife has been uninterested in sex for eight years. ![]() I enjoyed our conversation and your email reminded me that it’s been too long since I had John on the show. I know for a fact that John McWhorter would be a great guest on the Savage Lovecast… because he was such a great guest when he came on the Savage Lovecast! He was on the show in July of 2021 to talk about “Nine Nasty Words,” which I absolutely loved. (BTW, John has a delightful podcast himself called “Lexicon Valley.” He’s also the author of the 2021 bestseller “Nine Nasty Words,” which includes, of course, a chapter on “fuck.” He’d be a great guest on your show! ![]() If you put it out there on the Lovecast I’m sure both John and I would be fascinated by the results. We need to check how other Brits into S&M say it.” I can’t think of anyone in a better position than you to research this question. He replied: “So perfect! Except actually Brits don’t backshift as much as we do. For example, once people got the idea of writing on a black board, it became a thing in itself and got the pronunciation “BLACKboard.” I promptly wrote to John to let him know that some of his Henry Higgins powers had apparently been picked up by you. The phenomenon of shifting the stress to the first word of a phrase has been labelled “backshift” by the eminent linguist John McWhorter. I was fascinated by your analysis of Hugh Grant’s “safe WORD” rather than “SAFE word” to support your hypothesis that he was just fucking with us by claiming to be into S&M. There’s so much more to say about this topic and I will do a better job of addressing the ambiguities and the absolute need to put kids first the next time it comes up.Ībout Hugh Grant’s recent admission, which I talked about at the top of this week’s Savage Lovecast… Even if you know your kids are going to find your porn and/or sex toys (and they are), putting them away makes an important statement about privacy (even as your privacy, as a parent, is being violated), appropriate boundaries, and simple consideration. Also, most parents, whether they’re in an open or closed relationship, have the good sense not to leave porn and sex toys scattered around. That’s good advice… that good parents won’t need and bad parents won’t take. The advice you share-keep it outside the home and/or wait until your kids are grown and have moved out-is the approach most open/poly parents take. No decent parent in an open relationship would ever gaslight their children and/or make them feel like their needs were less important than their own desire for sexual fulfillment. ![]() I didn’t bring it up in my response you mentioned, but in the past I have emphasized the need for parents to prioritize their children’s well-being and sense of security-and sometimes that means waiting to open your relationship, even if that’s what you both want. My advice to parents is wait till your kids have left home or do it outside the home always.įirst and most importantly, I’m really sorry that you had such lousy parents and that you were abused by an older sibling. You said in the podcast the main harm of open/Poly marriages is the stigma. As a child who grew up in that environment in my experience the harm was that my parents were more interested in getting off than my well-being. I wanted to share because I wanted people to be aware of the environment they create for their children. I believe this is partly why I was sexually abused by my oldest brother. Our house was a very sexual place with lots of porn around in the open. I would then be taken aside and told what I saw was not real. I would walk in or witness either my mum or dad in bed or in the act with other people. Published on ATTN: Listen to our new episodes at sesh.Lots of different factors were at play but some factors that are relevant here are that my parents kept it from me. Struggle Session’s tracks The Matrix Resurrections We talk video games, movies, TV, wrestling, comic books, music, anime, and all of your problematic faves. Leslie Lee III, Jack Allison wade into the reactionary hellhole of modern America. Struggle Session is the world's finest politics and pop culture podcast.
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